Heh.  I tried Flylady, but couldn't keep up with her system.  I had to take a few hints, try them at home, and see what worked.

One big difference between ADHD people and AS people you'll see in conversation.  If the ADHD person is telling you about something and you interrupt or add something, the conversation will take off in a different direction.  The ADHD person will lie awake all that night because that's when he/she finally remembers the point he/she wanted to make in the first place.  An AS person will continually turn the subject back to what he/she wanted to talk about in the first place, and if you interrupt or try to change the topic, he/she will try to reintroduce it.  Depending on the type and severity of the AS, you might not even notice that you're back where you started, or you'll get annoyed at how blatantly your attempt to turn away from that subject was ignored.  The AS person will very likely not know or care that you're not interested in that subject.

Both types have sensory issues.  Anything from fidgeting to self-harm will be used to focus or shut out extra stimulation.  Things that don't bother other people are intolerable, as far as noise, sounds, smells, lights and colors, and touch.  While someone neurotypical might merely be annoyed at an itchy label in clothing or a wrinkle in the sheets, an ADHD or AS person won't be able to think of anything else, and won't be able to function as long as that stimulus is there.  Forget pulling the curtains to block out light so you can sleep - the fact that that light is coming in your window at the very time you want to be sleeping is irritating enough to keep you awake.  I used to put on music when I was doing homework, but the way it helped me was by giving me something that I could use my focus on the homework to deliberately block out.  Ugh.

As far as marijuana for ADHD - that is so lame.  It's a depressant.  It makes it worse.  If you have ADHD and you use a depressant, you get all wired and hyper, and lose focus even more.  You remember all the talk about parents complaining about their kids being woozy from Ritalin?  That's because if you have ADHD, and you get enough stimulation from a medication, you don't need to DO anything to stimulate your brain.  So nothing is exciting enough for you to bother staying awake for.  I get my best naps EVAR on Adderall.

Actually, that is one of the good things about ADHD.  Your brain is always making connections - other people might think that you're talking nothing but non-sequiturs all the time, but the truth is that you've done a six degrees of separation type game in your head in a fraction of a second.  It allows you, depending on where you are in the spectrum, and how curious and creative you are, to see relationships among superficially unrelated things.  You can remember bits of information that stay hidden until something you see or hear reminds you of it, and it makes you a fascinating party guest.  You might learn things better if you understand how to apply them or how they came to be.  If something catches your interest, you can become better informed about it than most of the people around you in record time (just be careful - some interests aren't going to grease the social wheels!)

The bad thing is that if something doesn't interest you, it's nearly impossible to pay attention.  If something you need to know is presented to you and you can't figure out why you need to know it, or how you'll put it to use, or how it's connected to something important, it might not ever stick in your head, no matter how hard you try to remember it.  The older you get, and the more you've learned or experienced, the more difficult it is to stay focused, because everything reminds you of something interesting and sets you off on a new project or a mental reverie.  If you see something interesting and think "Hey, I could make that," or "I think I could figure out how to do that," or "I wonder if I could use that for something else," then your ADHD can take control, and you end up surrounded by mental and physical junk.  You start things to see if you can do them.  Once you can, you might never do them again - or finish them in the first place.  If you find you can't, you waste tons of time trying to figure out why not, and how you could fix it.  And you don't throw anything out because you might get back to it.  Then you're surrounded with mementos of your failure (which reinforces what all the grownups in your life told you about how you wouldn't be a failure if you only tried harder!) 

It's very hard to edit your life, but it's key to look around you.  If you have unfinished projects around you, finish them, throw them away (yes, that's REALLY hard if you have it) or pay someone else to finish them.  Do this before you allow yourself to start anything else, especially anything else of a similar nature.  Winnow down your possessions until you can see everything you own just by looking around.  Don't put things in boxes or closets (or boxes in closets!) to save for later.  Use your storage space vertically rather than horizontally - don't stack things two and three deep.  Do I do all of these?  Well, I try.  Some things still need a LOT of work, but when I've taken my own advice, I've found it a lot easier to stay on track.  I've hoarded one thing or another all my life, and I've been working on throwing away or giving away for several years now, and most of my house and my life are in minimal states of chaos!

I'm very sad right now.  I have everything I need except a more recent version of PhotoShop.  The liquify tool in CS works on only a single layer, without the layer mask, so if you try to warp a texture to fit a section of hair, you're doing it totally blind.  I wasn't getting the kind of results I wanted by manually painting the hair on, but it seems it's my only option unless I can come up with a few hundred spare dollars.  (Ha!)  I'm very sad.  I have a couple of Kavar male hairs, love the meshes, hate the textures, so I never get to use them in-game.  I'll figure something out, but it always seems that I spend so much time looking for ways to save time!

And more thanks. . .I got some good links here!

Nouk textures:  http://www.sendspace.com/file/yhgrm0

Pooklet's link had links to her tutorial, Azaya's, and bosie's, so there's loads of good information right there!  I'm good to go!

Thank you kindly!  I had found her Dreamwidth page, but couldn't find links to the hair.  You have saved me much trouble!  Ditto GOS, I've dl'd stuff from them, but didn't see a link to just textures.  Spend enough hours in a row surfing and downloading, and you lose you ability to recognize links to things you really want, I think.

I've had ADHD my entire life, and I was diagnosed back before they called it ADHD.  Having OCD or ODD or BDD or depression along with it is more common than having ADHD alone.  I'm unmedicated right now, but if I could find a doctor on my insurance plan that would give me back my meds, I'd jump for joy.  Once you know what it's like to be able to think of one thing at a time, it's hard to go back to having a brain that's always full of noise.

I'm kind of hoping that somewhere someone has a catalogue of Nouk or Pooklet textures as a standalone, so I don't have to copy a whole bunch of bits and pieces from all their hairs (and download a bunch more that I don't necessarily want just so's I can get the textures.)  Yeah, I'm being lazy.  I could make my own textures, but if I had a whole bunch from the same creator, then I could make all my hairs matchy-match with so much less effort!  TIA.

I was just surfing around to see what fun stuff was out there to download, and stumbled in here.  Nice to see that InSim hasn't really died!