Judging from the fit of the neck (in the first set of pics), I would say that your modified mesh isn't even loaded - or you haven't imported your changes properly. The screenshots you have provided look exactly like the unmodified adult mesh.
One way you can verify if your mesh edits are taking is to grab one of the neck vertices and do something ridiculous with it (create a giant spike). If it shows up in the SimPE preview window and Body Shop you know you are loading your exported mesh correctly. If not, you need to revisit the above steps and make sure you're re-importing the modified file you exported from Milkshape. Also, did you remember to scale your model by 0.94 before adjusting the verticies?
Here's a screen shot of the earlier formal I posted: