ok, i allready found the problem, i was using the recolor file instead of the original mesh file.
damn, was looking a half year what the problem was 

ok, im totaly confused with body meshing.
recoulering, no problem, changing basic mesh with milkshape ... no problem
but im working a half year on recoulering and meshing creating/editing because i want no sim the same
no play so far 

now, custom meshes are a problem, whole the outfit is good but the shoes i don't like so i extract the mesh file with sim pe and edit this in milkshape ( http://www.modthesims2.com/showthread.php?t=179177 but i can't see the shoes in milkshape.
Is there a way just to change the shoes or im a totaly searching in the wrong direction.

Grz

it does not realy care what bodyshape it is
offcourse the warlockk bodyshape because it goes in all sizes of bodytype.
... i hope,  best one is 34-38D-28-34 mesh ... is like a long dress with boots and top.

Im testing with creating my own clothing, i search trough all the meshes but they all have max 3 texture files or i don't know witch one, i need 6 textures.

body_alpha3~stdMatBaseTextureName
body_alpha3~stdMatBaseTextureName_alpha
body_alpha5~stdMatBaseTextureName
body_alpha5~stdMatBaseTextureName_alpha
body~stdMatBaseTextureName
body~stdMatBaseTextureName_alpha

Can someone help me ?

Grz and tnx