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Ok I thought I would half-ish resurrect an old threat originally named "Any gay teens"

So basically I wanted to create a thread to discuss and GBLT related subjects.

Have fun ;)

Just let me make one thing very, very clear to everyone: any kind of derogatory comments at all will result in your asses being handed to you on a platter. Got that? Good!

...carry on.

Thanks Jenna, I was going to include something like that but I figured the people here should be mature enough to polite at a sensitive subject like this, but I thank you for including it anyway.

Yay. I love this thread already! Word to StupidFriday for making it.  1rock
I'm bi, for the record (strong female preference).

*hugs StupidFriday*
It has returned! :P I'm a lesbian btw :P

Just chiming in to say I am really imreseed with the positivity here. Lets keep it this way :D.

i was wondering about this thread. glad it's back.

i'm bi. i was in a relationship with a girl, but sadly, i broke up with her on Wednesday cuz i was in one of my bad Asperger's moods. it's been a rough week for me anyways; i really need the weekend off.

Hey, I'm also bi, but none of my family know!

I know what Aspergers is like, my brother and my dad have it :-(

Char
xxx

I'm glad we got this thread to be ourselves without people going "ewwww". I'm out to almost everyone, and I'm just about out to my grandpa, the only one that doesn't officially know. I think he has an idea. It doesn't seem to matter to people anymore, since I'm married to a guy. I haven't had a girlfriend in like 3 years, and she broke my freakin heart into like...a billion pieces.

News: I'm getting a GLBT tattoo soon. I'll upload pictures as soon as I can.

I'm really happy to see this thread resurrected, the original was the first place I had ever expressed my true feelings in any form whatsoever. Since then I have come out to one friend who said that it didn't change a thing and that she suspected it anyway. Unfortunately I have since been very emotionally unstable. The days I accept and am happy with who I am I feel like I could fly into the clouds, but the days that I don't I feel like I'm falling into a bottomless pit I may never be able to climb out of again. I have really been struggling to hide from my roommates lately, I want to tell them but I am afraid. I just do not know what to do right now. Anyway I'm glad to see this thread again at least here I can be honest without being bashed or looked down upon.

For anyone who wants to know I'm gay.  2hug

I am straight, but support to the very extent of my being =]

I'm glad someone resurrected this thread, thanks, StupidFriday!
I'm straight (well, might be a little bi, I'm not sure anymore.  I can certainly admit when a woman is sexy ;) ) but I support the GLBT-community.  I'm a bit of a fruit fly actually, haha.

I'm bi. Nobody at my church knows it, and since I've been homeschooled that's my main place to socialize. :(

I.. well, I THINK I'm bi, but nobody knows. Except my internet friends. ¬¬ So, basically, how did you figure it out? Thanks for reviving the thread :D

I've never figured out what the heck I am. So I'm Straight/gay/BI.
    I'm married, and have three adopted kids, plus two of my own. (One is deceased) I spent my 13-33 gay then, then asexual (yes that is one too) till I was 36, then I got married to my best friend from high school.

Eh, I know I put I was straight before, but I may be a -little- bi. I dunno, I mean I can admit if a girl is pretty or cute, and I defiantly like guys...I don't know what the heck I am.

I'll chime in here for a moment since I'm bored...

It's easy to figure out what you are: you're you.

As for me, I consider myself equal-opportunity; I date men and women. Currently, I've been involved with a pretty little redhead for the last two years, and this is after her and I had been friends for a few years prior to that.

I've always gone for whomever sparks my interest, regardless of gender. It's been like that my whole life. Thanks to a supportive family, I've never had to hide my nature. Now what friends, co-workers, and parts of society in general have thought...well, that's a whole other story.

Not a teen, but will reply also. I've been going to for weeks, but always thought my response would look a little stupid, but as Jenna pretty much also said the same thing, I feel better now.

I don't categorize myself as straight, gay, or bisexual. Others would call me bisexual, I suppose. But, I don't like any of those terms. I like to think that love is love, and that you are interested in whom you are interested in. I don't think gender, age, race, religion, or anything really come into it. I like that Jenna called it "equal opportunity." It's exactly like that.

I would never refuse to date someone I was interested in, attracted to, or got along with simply because they were a woman and I was as well. Same goes for men ('cept for the 'and I was as well' part, as I am not a man.)

I'm straight but I'm a memeber of my School's GSA (Gay Straight Alliance) We got it formed just this year!
Carry On My fellow humans!

I am bisexual. Or well, I've come to the logical and only reasonable conclusion that I am. My parents are the only people that know really, because they're extremely supportive and liberal. But nobody else knows... right now anyways. It's because I don't feel comfortable yet and I am in middle school currently in Grade 8 (fourteen years old). . . and you know middle school is with drama and stuff. :P But thank god, I'll be out of that terrible hellhole next year.

hi everybody.
i thought i wouldn't post here since i'm not a teen but... after reading i found out that a lot of people posting weren't teens...
so i decided i might tell you something too... it is for all those people who say "i don't know what the hack i am" or that are confused...
my suggestion is... don't bother yourself trying to understand. just be yourself, enjoy your life with whoever you like don't care if they are male or female. straight, omo, bi... are just labels that people try to use to classify something that can't be so clearly classified. love, sexuality, preferences... are too complicated to be so easily and neatly divided, boxed and labeled. so.... don't try to understand, just take life as it comes, if you find someone you love and that loves you... that's all you need to know. be happy. love is something too rare and precious to waste it just because it comes in an "unexpected form"...

bye
M.

^^I agree with you! :) Also, thank you StupidFriday for making this thread!

...In the old thread I said that I was bisexual, but now I'm pretty sure I'm completely gay. I think I was 14 when I told my mom that I was attracted to girls, and she asked if I was attracted to guys...and I said no. My mom is really open-minded to gays, and my sister is too. My sister would be fine if I was gay (which I'm pretty sure I am). Hmm...I don't all the time focus on the gender...I focus on the person...but then again, I haven't dated anyone yet! I might end up with a guy, because afterall love is love.

Peace everyone.  3yay

I agree with you von_manstein... I really havent dated girls before (although I have flirted on line a bit) but I consider myself bi, mostly cause when I was younge I feelt attraction to more girls than boys although I never admited it to anyone untill I was older. When I was older I realized that the more girls thing than boys was mostly cause the guys I whent to school with where jerks, It was then that I finally figured out that I like girls and guys equally but for diffrent reasons (what attracts me in a girl dosnt attract me in a guy and the other way around). So now its just mostly a question of opertunity and who I happen to fall in love with.

Im out to all my friends who are basically my "chosen" family.

My actual family dosnt know but thats mostly lack of opertunity and because I want nothing to do with my father who I basically dropped as a relative cause of my past issues with him.

Oh and good news, a guy friend from highschool apperently finally came out although most all his friends already thought he was gay and my best girl pal has come out to her close friends as bi.

So whatever you think you are, whatever you feel... its perfectly alright... its your life and dont let people put you down for whatever is rite for YOU.

I want to open this thread again because people should be aware about these human and not treat them badly. What is their mistake if were from young age and realized their truth, or were raised like that. In our country homosexual are not aloud to engage in sort of affair or action except in downtown . I believe that if they were really like that, they should be open but I hope I don't cause any flames about this next statement but I'm against same sex marriges because I think they're against religon.(I not Mr. Reliogon) I believe yes they have the right to do what they want in their life.
As for me I'm straight, but I got my best friends X ( she's like me sister) she admitted to me that she was a lesbain. I didn't hate her for that. I accepted her and hanged out with her. But the thing that made me hate is when she told everyone in school just to be popular and said that she wants to be a man. I told her like 1000 times that people won't accept you and she wasn't convinsed. In my country their are not   local comunities that care about these things and if admit that are homo or bio, your parents would beat the hell of you and people will treat like you're something of less worthy. Like community who pretend to care about animals but I see eveyday cats and dogs and other sort of animals getting squashed just because theydon't have advanced brain like us. Anyway, everybody was making fun of her and ever since I'm not talking to her just because she wanted to use that for being popular.(Please if you want to reply a answer for my conversation with accepetence or rejection but in a repectful manner.)

This thread is already open and active here in this section. Why not just post there instead of starting a new, identical thread?

Topics have been merged.

Anonymous, when posting a new topic, please be sure there isn't already one first. If there is, then please respond to the topic in existence instead starting a new one.

Sorry Joy, but I thought I should open a new converstation because it was mentioned it this topic exeded more than 30 days so I thought that no one would talk it about unless it's reopened.

That only applies if you have nothing of value to post to the topic at hand. If you have something valid to say that will bring something new to the thread in question, then post. If posting won't do anything than bump the thread to the top of the page, then don't post.

Either way, opening a new thread on the topic shouldn't be done :)

Sorry Joy. But do  you think what I have done to me friend is right or wrong.(Please give a reply or answer as a guidness to me ignorance of experiences?(; desperate)

well, i do agree that your friend telling everyone she is a lesbain wasn't exactly the right thing to do, especially in a place where you live. but, not talking to her just because she did, even after you accepted her for who she is? well, judging by your actions, your friend now has no friends now that she's out, and you shut her out for particularly no reason.

You're right I should'nt left her out. But when you say something like that in my country, people make fun of you and say really hard and cruel things about her and I didn't want her to experinece that . She used it just to be popular. You can be popular in many different ways but not make yourself the school's joke? I'm not against them or her and I think're victims of fate. I mean who would love to themself the bitter feeeling of this by an young has and has this/herself feel weird. In my country they're against these people but they're wrong because it was not their choise. That is why I hope someday to live in America because it's land hardship but most importanity a land of freedom and liberity.

The thing is, if you and others who feel the same don't stand up and dare to be different, things will never change. It was the same in North America (and still is in places), but people stood up for what they thought was right, regardless of what people said and did. It's the only way to bring about any change. Nothing will change if you don't change it. If you thing they're wrong, then don't contribute to the problem by doing nothing about it.

Besides, friendship is about being willing to stand with your friend, regardless. Support isn't about agreeing with them all the time, it's about being beside them, even if you think they've made a mistake. You can disagree and still be supportive. If you really are her friend, then what other people think of it shouldn't matter. :)

What I want to know is, did she actually say she was telling people so she could be popular? Or is this your assumption? Is she simply, in her own way, trying to make a change in the way people perceive lesbians, gays, etc? Is this her way of saying "Who care what they think? I am who I am?"

You're right, I can't imgaine the feeling by dumped by my best friend. And now the worst thing she hanging around with her best friends and they're make fun of her by telling other friends and publishing this news in school. But if I want to reopen this friendship should I call her around the week? or wait? and you're right I should stand for but the problem is any sociaty it's your word aginst them and they hate them so much that they don't mind killing them. Tell me, do those people have the right to do what they want in public or in their places in America ? Is the president of America going to put rules to help them or he's like our president who used his money to go on24/7 trips. And what is your opionon on same-sex marriges?

I would suggest approaching her and apologizing for dropping her like you did and then let her decide what to do next :). Personally, my friends are my friends, regardless of their age, gender, religion or sexual preference. I don't care what other people think, because I'm not out to impress other people, especially other people who are so narrow minded as to think someone is a second-class citizen because they happen to be of a different race, religion or sexual orientation. At the end of the day, the opinion I should really worry about is my own and whether or not I know I've done the right thing.

As for same sex marriage, I'm for it. It's legal in Canada, where I live :)

 

Oh Canada. Sometimes I think I'd rather like to join you ...  :rolleyes:

So I definitely had no idea that this thread existed until just now but it kind of makes my night (erm ... morning)! I am not a teen either, but I am a lesbian so I thought I would poke my head in and say hi as well. So hi! And yay for this thread. It's so nice to find so many beautiful, welcoming people here.

You're lucky that you live in Canda. They say that it's the most beautiful place but it's cold in there.

It is beautiful, but it's certainly not cold now LOL.

I wish you kidnape my to canda for what happened to me of series drama this day.

I hope to move to Canada someday. America isnt doing it for me, i have to travel.

If you go call me, put me the in the big bags and take to Canada.

lol i'll do that :D

I've recently come out to my family as bi-sexual, and they are all accepting and don't mind as long as I'm sure and happy.
I'm a little angry with the Australian government, because they say they don't support homophobia, but isn't not allowing us to marry who we wish, if they are the same gender, homophobia?
Also, they won't grant us the ability to marry someone of the same gender as ourselves but Centrelink (unemployment benefits and single parents money etc.) here, now asks if you are living with someone of the same gender if you are in a relationship with them, and if you are they join your money together.
Isn't the Australian government guilty of homophobia then?

I would say they were more guilty of hypocrisy than homophobia.

I agree with Joy, it sounds pretty hypocritical.

Sounds totally screwed up.
America is the same way (save for a couple states). People do all these debates on why gays can't get married/shouldn't be allowed to get married, and about 80% of the time, they quote the Bible. No offense but who CARES about the Bible? It's called seperation of church and state.
It's sad, really. Straight people can get married on a whim, but gays have to do all this work to get married. My best friend and her new wife had to go half-way across the country to get married and it isn't fair.

10 Reasons Why Gay Marriage is Wrong

1: Being gay is not natural. Real Americans always reject unnatural things like eyeglasses, polyester, and air conditioning.


2: Gay marriage will encourage people to be gay, in the same way that hanging around tall people will make you tall.

3: Gay marriage will change the foundation of society; we could never adapt to new social norms. Just like we haven't adapted to cars, the service-sector economy, or longer life spans.


4: Straight marriage has been around a long time and hasn't changed at all; women are still property, blacks still can't marry whites, and divorce is still illegal.


5: Straight marriage will be less meaningful if gay marriage were allowed; the sanctity of Brittany Spears' 55-hour just-for-fun marriage would be destroyed.


6: Straight marriages are valid because they produce children. Gay couples, infertile couples, and old people shouldn't be allowed to marry because our orphanages aren't full yet, and the world needs more children.


7: Obviously gay parents will raise gay children, since straight parents only raise straight children.


8: Gay marriage is not supported by religion. In a theocracy like ours, the values of one religion are imposed on the entire country. That's why we have only one religion in America.


9: Children can never succeed without a male and a female role model at home. That's why we as a society expressly forbid single parents to raise children.


10: Legalizing gay marriage will open the door to all kinds of crazy behavior. People may even wish to marry their pets because a dog has legal standing and can sign a marriage contract.

I disagree with you Dmcclure1. I have seen gay people who are happy the way they are and I know 1 gay person and I think he's cool. There is nothing wrong with a gay couple having children. Gay people should be allowed to wed because they are a person just like you and me. They have the right to be happy and no one can take that right away from them. I support gay people, and if you don't like it, well then that's your problem.

Dmcclure1 was being sarcastic rockChick. :) This has been floating around the internet for a while as a tongue-in-cheek response to the reasons people give why Gay Marriage is wrong. Sarcastic irony is my cup of tea.   

1)Being gay is not natural. Real Americans always reject unnatural things like eyeglasses, polyester, and air conditioning

lol, im gay, just being sarcastic. my friend sent me that in an email.

I love that little list, Dugg. It makes me laugh at how horribly, depressingly stupid some people are. It just doesn't make sense that straight people are allowed to VOTE on whether gay people can/can't get married. Why is this such an issue? It's not hurting anyone and it has NOTHING to do with them, nothing at all. So what if a few churches don't get to boss the world around? It's not their place...

Except Lutherans. They have recently allowed openly-gay (non-celibate) members as well as clergy to attend their churches. Go Lutherans! At least somebody is breaking the chain of archaic, hurtful ideals.

not just the Lutherans, Jamie. my mom's friend's chruch does a lot of stuff with the gays, more specifically, AIDS research. and they're a Methodist church, too!

Really? Right on Methodists! That's pretty cool that gays don't have to just go to strictly gay churches to be able to worship and be treated fairly anymore. I'm glad things are changing, it's for the better.

It's actually really Mormons that are being total sticks in the mud about it (or so I have read in the news). I'm thinking, "Come on. Get with the times. Everyone's a little gay sometimes. Their money is just as green, and their knees can hit the floor in prayer just like everyone else." No offense to Mormons on this thread (I'm sure none of you are like this), but up until modern times (the past 40) years, certain sects of Mormon people still thought it was okay for old guys to marry 13 year old girls. I'm sure nobody does that now, but seriously, how on Earth is being gay/bisexual/lesbian/transgender so bad?

LMFAO @ Dmcclure1's sarcastic post about gay people. that is funny and sooo ironic!!!

im not sure what i am...

i think the female body is prettier in general, and i enjoy looking at women MUCH more than at men. But when it comes to intimacy, i dont think i could....ya kno...do what lesbians do. Ive only been in "real" relationships with men. i did date a girl but my bf and i kinda added her into our relationship at the time and i was just so jealous all the time nothing ever happened between us.

Maybe im like 30-50% Bi lol

I think the female body is prettier to draw and take pictures of, but im not attracted to females.
:D

The feminine form is much easier on the eyes than men. Personally I don't like the way male anatomy looks. I like the way Brandon looks because he is structurally built thin and feminine, except in the face region. But generally I don't feel attracted to guys.

My mother and sister both think that females are quite attractive but aren't interested in them in a sexual way. I do prefer the feminine form, but I also like a muscular man. Love that post Dmcclure1. Made me laugh my head off!

Ok, so i just watched Prom Queen (http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0410953/)
 yesterday, it was pretty good, it made me mad though. I put a hyperlink in so you guys can check it out.
:D

Sorry about the double post but i have a question for you all.
When you came out (if you came out) did you tell your friends or family first?
I told my friends even though i knew my family would accept me, partially because if my friends left me then my family could cheer me up.

I told my best friend first.. but then I told the family one at a time.. My family and I have decided not to tell most of the extended family, as it will some how get back to my nan and she will tell everyone else..

I told my friends first. Well, they actually kind of figured it out and asked on their own and I said yes. It took me another year and a half (until I got my first girlfriend) to tell my mom. Later I told my dad and everyone who cared to know. Now everyone knows.

My parents and sisters already knew, given that bisexuality runs rampant in my family. Most of my friends we're fairly quick to figure it out, and the few I did tell we're either like "well, duh..." or completely dumbfounded by the concept. Gay they could understand, bisexual they couldn't.

...I honestly found it rather amusing.

Honestly i was confused for a while about bisexuality but then i figured that if i was programmed to like guys and others were programed to like girls than why couldnt people be programmed to like both. :)
The one thing that made me kinda mad when i came out was that my family (everyone) said "i know" when i told them. It made me feel like there was no point in telling them.
The most FAQ when i came out was if i thought (insert name here) was cute. Most of my friends and my sisters did that. lol

Dugg, that's really cool that your parents were accepting. A lot of parents are jerks about their kids being gay (especially boys for some reason). My great-grandma was the only other bisexual in my side of the family besides me. My husband's whole family is bisexual though, which is cool because there isn't going to be any negativity or judgment if any of my kids turn out gay or bi (there's already evidence from my drag-queen son).

My parents don't really mind. They are happy as long as I am happy. They said they'd be proud of me no matter who or what I liked.

1yeah my parents are the same way.

my mom cried when i told her. but shes cool with it, she said she already knew and they were tears of joy.
my dad...welll thats another story.
ALL of his side? really? wow i only have two gay cousins and a gay aunt..that i know of. lol

Yep, all of his immediate family. His mom, two sisters and brother (even though his brother says he isn't he is. Everyone has evidence of it). We don't really have much to do with his aunt or grandma because they are both jerks, and Brandon doesn't know his dad.

So Brandons bisexual too then?

Yep, he's bisexual in pretty much the same way I am. I really prefer girls (so does he), but sometimes he will feel attracted to guys too. He has a weakness for Russian accents or Japanese men. He's like in love with Tak Sakaguchi and Peter Serafinowitz. He's never had an official boyfriend before but he had a romantic relationship with this Russian boy he went to school with in Vegas (6th grade).

Thats cool
I like...every accent...if you have an accent and you talk to me, i guarantee i'll love it :D
But British German and Russian are my favorites :D

I like most accents, except French. When French girls have accents, it's cute. But when guys have French accents, it weirds me out.

I like English, Scottish, Irish, Italian.. and most others except for German accents. German accents freak me out.. I think I've watched too many war documenteries (although, it could have something to do with the fact that my mother was beaten by her german father..)

I have a thing for asian and Bulgarian accents. They are so cute!

I just want what straight couples have, to be able to kiss and flirt without being ridiculed or prosicuted for it...
D:
im depressed

I do agree with that Dugg, I also want to be able to hug and kiss my girlfriend without being yelled out or called gross because of it.
And I'd love to be able to kiss her goodbye when her parents come pick her up. But they think that we should be slaughtered like animals.
I can't tell my parents I'm dating her because they will tell her parents, who will ban her from seeing and talking to me.
I feel like rubbish.

And the worst part is no matter where we go there will always be people that stick up their noses to the very thought of us living, and being happy in this world! Its a real sham when someone cant love who he or she pleases... a real shame.

Just think about it this way, if people don't hate you for being gay/bi then they will find something else to hate you for. That's just people, they're negative and want a way to feel like they're better than others. Screw 'em. Don't let people like this determine your quality of life. If you do that, you're only letting them win.

I don't care if they yell at us and call us gross.
Well, I do. But only because it hurts her.
But I would think that you would love your kids no matter what.
I guess not..

Bad english. i know.


I really feel sorry for you. It makes me so angry if people dont accept gays en lesbians. What is there to hate when its all about the love between a gay/lesbian couple.
This isn't the middleages
COME ON AMERICA
MOVE ON.

Mad hatter my advice to you. If things don't change soon enough in america or in your situation at home (i guess you live in america.)
Come to europe. People are much more open respectful there. especially here in Amsterdam.
But im guessing your very young. And running away isn't exactly the solution. I know i cant do anything for you. but you have my support. and that's all i can give you

I am young, still in high school. But I live in Australia.
Everybody I know accepts it, but I still get weird looks.
They will be talking about people they find cute/hot and when they turn to me they look worried for some reason.
I just don't answer anymore.

I was thinking about moving to Europe... two years.

At this point in time I am straight, and I just now discovered this thread.

I am suppportive more than anyone I know who actually isn't GBLT, and I may as well be bi myself, too young to know for sure yet.

Yesterday my freing used the word gay in a mean way, so I told her I love gay people, they are the nicest ones out there, and she said eww so I punched her. :D

I would never say anything about gay people like that. Ever.

And also I would like to add this: EVERYBODY deserves love.

(I'm jelous, you live in Australia!)

(Australia isn't really anything special. But I guess thats the point of view you get when you haven't been anywhere else. I spose we do have most climates here, deserts, snow, rainforests. And most religions. And we're very relaxed. Except they still won't allow gay marriage! *pretends to strangle Kevin Rudd*)

My mum was researching on Wikipedia earlier, and she found this: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pansexuality
And she turned me and said 'You know, this sounds more like you then bisexual does.'
I looked at her and said 'Does it matter what they call it?'
She said no
So I replied 'Then why bother?'
And she started going on about how she just wanted me to feel secure and that I had others out there like me.
I interupted her and said 'Do you honestly think I'm that silly? I know there are others like me. I talk to them on the internet. And I am secure. Thats why I told you.'
Then she started ranting at me about sarcasm and internet safety.

I just read that thing. What on Earth REALLY is the difference between that and bi-sexuality? Why do some people feel like they have to have something else to believe in? It's like, "Your kid is bi/gay. Get over it!"

LMFAO!!!! that was too funny.
regarding the whole pansexual i agree, it sounds alot like bisexual.

Lol. I'm still a bit confused as to how sarcasm got into the conversation.
Ah well.. I don't care what people call me.
I'm happy just being me.

Good! You should be! If you aren't then there must be something wrong!

I am officially announcing myself bi, but with a strong preferance to males ;)

Good for you!

I hate this, there is this god awful stereotype going around my school (noticed it before I left school today) :

supposedly, all the gay/lez/bi people at our school do drugs. Um, Hello! I don't, Brett doesn't, Leahh doesn't, I can make you a list! Gawd. People are $#@&#ing retarted about this.

Our whole school is total homo-phobes except for a few gay/bi/lesbians. :'(

seems like that here too...oh well, i find it kinda funny.

I guess it can be... but ya know, sometimes I want to slap this one girl, Sara Stachke, all the way to Kansas (hope none of you live there) For being such a #^@&%$&%$@&ing homophobe, and she's so rude about it.

She knows full well how many bi people are in our algebra, and she knows that Cam is gay, so why does she have to be so freakishly grossed out and biatchy about it??!

 2hug for you.

My girlfriend had the same trouble at her old school.
On the last day before she left that school to come to mine, I was up where she lives (we live in different towns  :( ) and I saw one of the girls who was picking on her. So in full view of the mean girl, I kissed her on the cheek. She left us alone after that.
But it could of been that she knew me when I went to that school..

Hello everyone. I have a similar question as Dmcclure1; How should I go about talking to my family about being Bi?

I rember when I finally realised what I was, i was 12-13 and I asked my mom What would happen if I told her I liked girls too?

She said she would ask me what she did wrong to make me that way...

I've confronted her about it again since I'm "grown up" but shes never given me a straight answer.

She maintains that she would never say something like that...but she did.

My dad is a bigot and I know for a fact would not accept me, he'd stay in denial or think it was a phase.

My older brother knows, and acts like its a joke.

I knew I was bisexual from a really young age, but I didn't tell my parents until I was 15, and was having relationship troubles with my first girlfriend. It was actually pretty easy for me, because I came home crying my eyes out because she had cheated on me with some boy at school. My mom noticed I was down for a few days afterward and she told me that I HAD to tell her and her ex-husband what was going on. They thought maybe I got pregnant or something.

So I just told them the truth, that I liked girls, and that I was having problems with my girlfriend. I just wasn't afraid of reproach or disgust because I knew who I was and nothing else mattered at the time. You just have to let it out. If you are attracted to a certain girl, just tell your parents you like her romantically. Be mature and tell them to stop living in the dark ages.

My sister acts like its a joke sometimes, but I know that she doesn't mean it in a harmful way. We all joke about it here.
I'm tempted to ask mum if I can put it on facebook (the rest of my family is on it so I have to ask incase of a fall out)

I sorta guessed from when I was about 12.. but only really told my family this year.

It's not so much a specific girl or anything, I just know I am sexually attracted to both men and women. I have thought women were beautiful to look at for a very very long time (age 4).

I know what I am and have accepted myself, my parents have never really understood anything about me, nor accepted it, so i think what i really fear is another thing that distances us.

Thanks though.

Everytime i read these stories it makes me sad. My aunt who lives in America once had a discussion with me and my family about gay rights. She said that it was ''unnatural'' to mary a man if your a man. Me and my mom flipped out and said she was very wrong and i told her that the presence of her makes me wanna break stuff. so my aunt said she thought we were disgusting and she left
haha i even waved at the dumb b**ch. I managed to laugh it off.
but my mother, wasn't to happy. this is her sister ofcourse, she just couldn't believe what she just said.

just wanted to share this story. Things like this remind me how lucky i am for being born in this family.
but if people dont accept you for who you are, there is no need to be friends with them. but you cant easily do that if its your family, that is what makes it so incredible hard.

well what I did was one day when she was cleaning the bathroom i walked in (after standing outside of the bathroom for what seemed like hours) and said "mom, im gay" and she said i know and started crying :/
she said it was because she was happy that i knew who i was...

Aww, Dugg, that's a cute story!

The only people other than you guys who I have officially told were: Brett, Bella, and Maya (twin sister.)

I almost wish I were a guy, because itr seems like people are much, MUCH less dusgusted by gay guys than by girls. I know for a fact that if I had been born a guy I would have been gay, it's really obvious that I would like guys regardless of my gender, because after knowing the gay guys I do, they are a lot better looking and nicer than most girls.

well, girls are less disgusted, guys is another story lol

I guess I never really thought of it that way, because most guys don't make fun of girls too much anyways...

Everyone at my school says "no homo" after saying something that some dummy decided sounded gay, or something. I really get so mad at people when they say it I go " OH COME ON! SOME OF MY BEST FREINDS ARE GAY!" and they shut up quickly! ;D

My sisters friends sometimes say 'oh that is so gay' when they are round here.
I was sitting near them once, and I leaned over and said 'No, I'm so gay.'
They went silent and they haven't said it since.

My mum and sister don't understand how I can like feminine looking guys. I think they look cute..

Me too it's like, are they BLIND!?

OMG I LOVE that comeback!!!

Haha, I'm going to say that, and I'm going to be like the people on those commercials. "No, that's so b*tchy girls who have no life" lloll

Lol. I must say, you lot make me laugh.
I'm actually really happy at the moment. Mum has now banned anyone from saying things like 'oh thats gay' etc.
Woo!

Haha there even was a part in my life that i thought i was a bisexual. i kissed a few girls and i didn't mind doing it. but the thought of me having a relationship with a girl just annoys me. Girls are so frustrating. so that is why i stick to guys haha.

BTW: i was wondering did anyone of you who live in america , marched with the The National Equality March? I thought that was pretty awesome

Never heard of it... I wish!

I recently was overheard as I told my freind Alysiah I was bi (she is too) by this girl Caroline. She was like "eww!" I was like "Not Eww, y best freinds is gay, and i am bi, deal with it." She told me I was gross and sinful so I backhanded her.  :D

You know, just walking away would have been the best reaction. Her opinion comes from a lack of education and hitting her probably didn't help her opinion of bisexuals or gays.

I do know this, but I mean.... she was mean to me, my best freind, and several others, all at once, and I was so sick of her talking crap about everyone, I just flipped out. I have slight assburgers, and when I get mad, I get mad, and aside from that I actually go to church (not a lot, but still) and I can't imagine why love could be sinful, and it's really annoying when she is mean to everyone about everything. Why do people have to hate on us, we aren't the only difeerent ones!

If she spends so much being mean to other people, I can only guess she does it to make herself feel better. If that's the case, then there's something going on there. It doesn't make her actions right by any means or excusable, but think, for a moment, of how sad it is knowing the only way a person can feel any happiness is by knocking other people down. I can certainly understand being upset. Being gay, bi, lesbian or transexual doesn't hurt anyone. Just because some of my friends are, doesn't mean I automatically have to. Giving gays and lesbians the same rights as any other human beings just makes sense. I honestly don't believe anyone has the right to insult or belittle another person for their race, gender, sexual preferences or physical limitations at all. This sin things makes me roll my eyes. Seriously if they're worried about sin, giving gays and lesbians the right to marry makes sense. That erases one big sin right there.

You have every right to be upset or even angry, however you can choose how to deal with it. Years ago I learned a number of good things from someone who became a mentor to me. One of his pearls of wisdom was we get upset and angry and this is fine. We can't help how we feel about thing, but we can, however, have a say in what we do about how we feel.

Exactly! That whole sin this just was like...." what!?"

I understand but, ya know, I am a very hyper active little teenager, so I can't control my anger very well, I try, but I'm no good at it...  :-\

Everyone should have rights though.

This person actually has a pretty sweet life though, I mean, she has an older brother, mom, and and dad who love her, and they have a good deal of money (wayy more than my family does) her house isn't falling apart, and no one has had a serious illness in her family, she's just flat out mean.

Well, at the end of the day, does the opinion of one person whom you don't even like really matter? :) As long as your friends and family accept you, that's what's important. Even more importantly, as long as you can look at yourself and like what's there is what matters.

Your good at this!  :D And your right, I accept myself, and so do the people I love most.  :D

*grins* I had a good teacher. Thank you. And there you go. That is what matters.  1love

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Ugh.. this girl I know just found out that I'm bisexual.. and now she reckons that she is.. but before she knew I was she said she wasn't.. why do some people do this?

Let's not go too crazy with the smiley's OK? :)


It's possible she didn't feel comfortable sharing the information without knowing someone else who was. Most people won't speak out if they think they're going to be the only one doing so. As much as the majority of people say they want to be different, they're afraid of it.

Yeah.. I know that my girlfriend wasn't comfortable until she knew I wouldn't judge. It was just annoying. I don't know.. I'm easily annoyed so it might just be me

It's not just you, it's annoying when people feel the need to be accepted to that degree. They can't seem to have their own thoughts and opinions. They change their views every time they're around a new person. One day they might be hanging out with homophobes and say, "Gays are awful." and another moment they are with gays saying how "bi" they think they are. It's weird but some people feel the need to blend in like a good weave.

As far as the whole Biblical crap...not everyone is Christian. Why do these people feel the need to preach to us when their doctirine does NOT govern us? When Christians tell me that the Bible says being gay is a sin, I take it about as seriously as someone telling me that a giant seagull hates gays. So what?

I would think that the world would learn to grow a little. Things change. We can't all stay in the dark ages. Most people will agree that it was totally stupid when Black people had no rights back in the day. And it was. So why is it any different not giving gays rights? It's not any different at all. As humans (consenting legal adults when it comes to the marriage part), we ALL need to have the same rights.

its people like that that make my mom question bisexuality, she thinks that most people say that just to be "cool".
Im slowly convincing her otherwise.
Although i have realized that most girls at my school who say there bi really are just doing it to impress a guy or something...
sorry about the smilie faces joy :D

This one guy at my school said his girlfried was bi (And back in 6th grade I thought dating as gross even by itself, and I was a little grossed out) I told him I thought it was gross he said "No it's not, it's hot." I was thinking "WHAT!?" and I am bi myself and I am still thinking that.... That kid was weird...

Honestly, I think that being bi makes me even more of an outsider, but I do know that 3 of my freinds are bi so it's all good. :D
(Sorry joy!)

That honestly gets on my friggin nerves, when girls say that they're bi to impress guys. It's kind of slutty and it very much underminds actual gay/bisexual people. Others seem to take us less seriously because of people like that. I hate when girls say that they are bisexual and try to get with me, and suddenly mention some guy. I'm like, "I am NOT an object to help you turn on your boyfriend." Those people are such sleezes.

Bisexuality means that you are attracted to both genders. Being a total skank-wad, and not caring who or what you're messing around with is not the same thing.

I like that word Senko, skank-wad. Hehe.

My girlfriend is away on holiday with her parents, and she emailed me last night.
She said that her and her parents were out shopping and saw two guys holding hands (And I quote 'Which I thought was rather hot and cute that they didn't seem to care if other people said anything')
And that her parents loudly said 'Things like that should be banned and punishable by jail term'
She was left apoligising to the men as her parents walked into a store. She said she felt really embaressed and angry.
It still amazes me, about some of the people we share the world with.

That's the way we ALL need to be, like those two men. There comes a time where we need to just say "screw it" when it comes to other people's expectations. We only have one life to live and we need to just live it as happily as we can. Those two guys probably could give a crap less what two close-minded people think about them. They're in love and they are in pursuit of their own happiness.

I was talking about this with my husband just this morning. The world will always have idiots in it, and we can't just spend all of our time worrying about how they see us. Just like with many things, bi-racial adoption, religion, sex-changes, etc. There will always be people who don't understand and don't approve, but when you do things out of love and happiness, you're not wrong.

I wouldnt be afraid to hold hands with a guy...if only i had one :/
On a happier note...i dont know lol :D

That's redicoulous mad hatter, do they know their daughter is bi? I mean really, that's the rudest thing ever. I'd rather someone say "That's so gay" to my face.

I agree Jamie, everyone needs to be like that! I honestly said that a long time ago, when I knew there was no possible way for me to get all A's in a class, I said f*ck it, and got a B, big whoop. I could care less what people think of me, I honestly would laugh in someone's face if they were rude to me about being bi. I'd say "Thanks, I know, I am GROSS!" and see just what they say to that!

Aww, poor Dugg! (lol, I should call you Duggle.... no Idea where that came from :D )

Thats the thing, they don't know that she's bi. They would probably kick her out if they knew.

On another note, Duggle! WOO!

Oh, that's so ridiculous! I can't believe how... dumb some peopel can be, it's like my mom said (she doesn't know I am bi yet, I see no reason to tell her at this point, I'm not truly interested in any girl as of now) She's still love me if I were a lesbian, I am her daughter. Everyone should just support the decicsions their kids make.

Yep, it's official, DUGGLE!!!

I know, NO parent should hate their child because of who they love. Religion and stuff like that should have nothing to do with your love for your child. I guess my kids are really lucky. They will never have to worry about being scared to tell Brandon or I about their sexuality. I could never turn my child away from my home, never.

I don't know how some parents can sleep with themselves at night knowing the kind of hell they put their child through. They have no room to even call themselves parents. I mean, young men and women all over the world commit suicide over things like this. They are so ashamed of themselves because of the hate that their parents press on them that they would rather die. How is your child's life worth foolish pride and archaic beliefs?

I couldn't live with myself, honestly, if any of my kids were gay/bi/lesbian I'd pray it were the oldest, so that if any other of the younger ones were too, they'd understand that telling me the are, is the same as telling me that there is a guy they like that they are dating. I would never just flat out kick my kid out for being different, if there were no gay people the world would be boring! :D

I don't understand how they can say that they would kick her out, any of them out.
I'd love my children forever and always, but the only reason I'd kick them out (after helping them get set up somewhere else, I'd never let anyone live on the streets) is if they were doing drugs or drinking heaps. I don't support those things.

Well yea, My kids would get their little *sses kicked right to somebody else's house if I found out they did drugs. No way, no how. They will not be like everyone (aside from 8-10) people at my school. No.

Even if my kid was doing drugs, I would not kick him/her out. Oh yeah, they would get a serious arse whipping from hell. I would turn my kid in to the police, and they would go to boot camp to get help. I am not going to have my kids harming themselves like that. But after getting their crap together, they would be able to come home.

But I'm betting if I'm open and honest with my children from day 1, they won't get into that crap. They have plenty of bad examples in the family.

Well she could come with me, my mom always did joke around about becoming a home for unaccepted gay teens :D
I like Duggle :DD

I don't think my friend could come to where you live Duggle.
She's too shy to go anywhere else.
And as soon as she is 17, she's hoping to move down here and in with me. Teens can legally leave home at 16 here and the parents have no say. She just needs to be sure that they won't change their minds and if she'll have enough money. So far, she has almost $1000 in the bank, and thats just saving money from chores around the house.

well shoot lol.
16? i dont think i could trust myself...at this point (im 16) i would live with my ex, and we would move to California...because its for lovers ;)

Lol. My older sister left home when she was sixteen. She's recently moved back home and she says she won't leave home until she is 18.
I'm not leaving home till I'm 24. I know, its a long time. But I don't wanna rent a place. I have ten years to save up enough money to buy a house, and I've already been offered about 4 jobs.

WOw, 16? That's insane! My family holds the record for that kind of thing.

my brother Kevin left at 16, my brother Brett left at 17 (then came back), my brother Bobby left at 25, Stevie at 23, and my sister Alisha at 17, then came back, and left again at 21. lol, me and Maya never left at all, we are only 14. ;)

Also, Jamie I would do the same as you, because them doing drugs I could never handle, they'd be able to come back so long as they knew they couldn't smoke, drink exsessively, or do drugs around me. Now way, no how.

Yeah, I'd never kick my kids out if they came out to me. Sure, they'd get an awkward stare from me for a few seconds, but I'd still let them stay and come to me for help. Same thing would probably happen if they told me they were pregnant, and still a teenager. Even though it might not happen anytime soon, I'd always support my kids, no matter what.

And I really hate the parents who say what I just said, and then threaten and kick out their kid for being gay. To those people, I say, "You phony hypocrites give me a royal pain in the arse!" Cuz saying you'll do something and doing something else or the total opposite are two different things. Just remember that actions speak louder than words. They always have and always will.

Yeah, your'e kids will totally love you  ;) You'll actually care about them (unlike some un-greatful little %#@&%$@'s who would rather go hunting than be with their sick daughter in the hospital!!!)

I guess that all we can do is set good examples for our kids and accept them. Make them feel safe, like they can talk to us. There are so many parents lacking in this kind of thing, our generation could change it.

Yep, because my freind's and I were TERRIFIED to tell our parents who we liked, and that someone asked us out, stuff like that because we thought they'd be mad.

I am going to be totally open with my kids about love and dating (like my mom was with me). Whether they're gay, bi or straight. But I am going to be one of those moms that makes sure my kids know their options. Like once my daughter gets her period, I'm going to ask her about birth control and if she wants to get put on it (same with my son when he starts dating, or when he asks). Not that I'm condoning or encouraging my kids to have sex or anything like that. But if they're going to do it, I want them to at least be protected (and hopefully be in love with the person they're with, no sleeping around).

Jamie, your'e going to be a great mom to your teenagers!

This generations gonna make the best parents!

I just don't want to delude myself in acting like one of those stupid moms that think "If I refuse to talk to my kids about their sexuality, they will never be interested in sex." Haha, yeah right! There were a few of those in my town, and they were the ones whose daughters got pregnant at an early age, because they couldn't ask their moms about birth control.

You can't really stop them unless you chain them up at home. I can cartainly talk to my kids and do my best to ensure they don't just sleep around with every Tom, Dick and Harry that crosses their paths. I do want them to have respect for themselves.

My mom talking to my sister when we got the news she was pregnant was more than enough to scare me away from that kind of stuff, I wear a promise ring now.

Kissed a girl this weekend.
Yep. definitly straight haha.
But tequila thought otherwise.
oh well...

Lol, I guess that's the only true way to know your sexuality... :rolleyes:

lol, i did the same thing to find out...except it was a guy, and i liked it :D

Obviously Duggle...  :rolleyes:   :D

Wow! I'm surprised there's a thread like this here! Even if it hasn't been posted on in forever... lol. So, anyway, I'm transgendered (FTM) and gay. Go me! lol

I'm also an ftm 3thumb , but straight
This hasn't been posted in for 2 years!

Lol yes, this community is very supportive- we don't judge or treat people badly, and we allow expression! :D

I'm glad that someone found this thread to be potentially helpful! Maybe you guys can get everything started back up again!?  ;D