do you have the shower facing in the right direction? if not your sim won't shower. i had the problem with the shower too. but what happend i had it turned backward. so for the sim to enter the shower you have to have it face the front. and as for the tolet sorry can't help you on that one.
yeah ark_sky who cares i like sim tots that look like adults and look like their parents don't we in rl?(real life) i think we sometime have to ignor what some people say about our sims. they're our creation