Oh boy, I can already see rocks being thrown at me for asking this, but: What do you people actually see, consider as child abuse? What do you mean by the term of survivor?
In general, I of course know what child abuse and survivors of it are, but there are many catogories. For example, in the European Union, the law considers a simple spanking child abuse.
As a kid I got spanked, probably tens of times, but somehow I don't feel like any sort of survivor, neither that it hurt me in any way. I dare say it went out good for me in the end, and now I believe it's actually impossible to raise a normal kid without a rolled up newspaper.
So, I'm just asking out of curiosity, because I know in real life both people that think like me and others who do consider a simple spanking violence of god knows how big measure.
In general, I of course know what child abuse and survivors of it are, but there are many catogories. For example, in the European Union, the law considers a simple spanking child abuse.
As a kid I got spanked, probably tens of times, but somehow I don't feel like any sort of survivor, neither that it hurt me in any way. I dare say it went out good for me in the end, and now I believe it's actually impossible to raise a normal kid without a rolled up newspaper.
So, I'm just asking out of curiosity, because I know in real life both people that think like me and others who do consider a simple spanking violence of god knows how big measure.
For me, usually I hate to talk of it...The memories are painful. My father molested and raped me whenever he felt like it when I was a kid. He would beat me each chance he got. Lock me in the bathroom and tell me I couldn't come out till mom got home. Threatened to put me in a garbage bag when it all began and toss me in the river if I ever told of the awful things he was doing. At one point, he made his point clear that he wasn't joking when he tried to stuff me in a garbage bag. When the truth came out about him molesting not only me, but my two younger sisters, my mother left him.
Her next boyfriend would starve me and my sisters when he got the chance. While mom was away in another state, he refused me and my sisters food, water and made us sleep outside.. It was below zero. We survived by sharing the dog's coop with a collie. When mom got home, she didn't understand why me and my sisters were so upset and in tears clinging to her no matter how hard we tried to explain things to her. Mainly because my speech is impared from the beatings I took from my biological father. One sister was too young to speak yet and the other was too scared to go into great detail.
There are some true horrors in my past.. So things I'd love to be able to forget.. And what I have mentioned is only the top layer... It's not even scratching the surface really of all the BS I was put through growing up. No child should ever have to go through the things I experienced. What irks me about the whole mess, mom's ex boyfriend that made me sleep outside in the cold is walking free. He never got in trouble over that. And my father.. He got a slap on the hand, a kick in the bum and told not to do it again. But that's the justice system for ya.
Now a spanking for a wrong doing, that's not abuse. My mother used to punish me all the time when I acted up. Either a spanking, corner or grounding. Normally it was a swat on the rear and a week of grounding for whatever it was I did wrong. Punishing is one thing.. Abuse is another.