Important Life Events

[SenkoTwiik]

Hi guys!
I just wanted to let everyone know that I'm in the middle of a move right now. I'm getting a divorce and it has been really hard. I am still going to get on to do my updates. I will try tomorrow, but if I don't update tomorrow, I just need a few more days. This weekend is real busy.

[caffeinated.joy]

Take care of what you need to, OK? If you can't make it on, don't worry about it. Take care of yourself. *hugs*

[SenkoTwiik]

Thanks Joy. The support really helps. This is the hardest thing I have ever had to do.

[Carlwashere]

Move? Eh, just compounding the stress I bet.
Like Joy said, don't worry too much about us, just focus on what you have to do.
 

[Paden]

Damn hon, that really bites and I'm sorry to hear that it's happening. We're here if you need us but take all the time you need because real life comes before internet life, as we've always stressed to each and every member here. If you need us, we'll be like Hoggle: here for you.

[Katie]

Aw, well... you have the support of every insimmer around

[DaSpecial1]

Health & other rl issues have me coming and going sporadically, but I'm here for you if you need Senko. 

[Hammie]

Oh Senko, I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope everything gets better soon.
 

[Nonni]

Dearest Senko,

I am so sad to hear of these trials. Please try to take care of yourself for these stresses will be taking a big toll on you mentally, emotionally and physically.

You will be in my prayers. I know everyone supports you with all their love.

Hugs from Nonni

[Glamily]

I'ma here for you Senko. I'm not very supportive and I tend to say the wrong things I think, but I can make you laugh

On another note, I've finally finished my work experience and got real good things about that.

[Katie]

It's my sister's birthday today, and the good thing is, when she says she's 22 and has a 2 year old, no one with look at her like she's insane anymore the way they love to. Everyone criticizes. Yeah she was still technically 19. Big whoop.

But on the bright side, I get cake.

[Theraven]

I've heard worse... being 19 or 20 isn't that young. My brother's girlfriend was 19 when they got their first, her mom was around 16, and her mother again was around that age, too. So my brother's firstborn son is 4 years old, and has very young great-grandparents (in their late 60's, I think). One of my cousins is 30, and is mother to four... She was actually 21 or 22 when she got her first.

I get cake too - it's my nephew's christening ceremony next weekend, and my birthday is just around the corner

[Katie]

Oh fun! I love christenings...

oooohhhhh. My brother, and his "girlfriend" are now engaged! (It's about time, they're expecting their third kid!)

[DaSpecial1]

I'm going through a difficult but overall beneficial move. I'm feeling stressed as the deadline approaches which is normal I guess but for some reason this week idiotic people have just been doing some unbelievable things.

For example: My spouse loaned a neighbor some expensive equipment (which they hadn't returned for months). Of course now that we're moving we asked politely for all of it back.  They said "sure thing! It is yours after all." But when he went to pick it up, the stuff (which had been sitting right in the yard) was moved. They had actually hid it!

He had to go back to work so I called up and asked them to bring it all over. In two sentences the conversation went from "could you please return it?" to them huffing and puffing over having to return it, to saying they shouldn't have to, to "oh we can't find them" to calling us all kinds of names (I don't even want to get into all the unfounded stupidity they said) and saying fine you low lives can keep your junk!! (and more)."

We basically keep to ourselves and have lived in this house for years. They moved here a year ago. The most contact I've had with them is when they needed something: a ride to the airport, to borrow anything, help when their car broke down etc. We've always pitched in to help when we could and that was it.  I don't drink with them, party with them and have never even walked across the yard to their house.

So I was livid. Giving them a piece of my mind I told them I don't care what contrived opinions they have or want to use to avoid the topic, return my stuff and go home. Really what is that preschool behavior? Oooo they want the stuff we borrowed quick go hide it!

I had been caring for my kids home from school with the flu, packing in between, and trying to rest when I could.  Catching flu from them, I was just advised by my ob to go to the ER for suspected bronchitis when this happened. And after all of that they only returned a few things claiming they "can't find the rest." $300 of equipment gone--an expensive lesson in neighbor ethics.

In any economy that sucks but in this one that really irks me, though maybe if I were rich it wouldn't.  Still with the chest congestion and now (after Friday) being put on bed rest with 9 days left to move I have more to focus on so I'm asking myself why this bugs me so much?

I think it's because:

1. It was totally out of left field (bringing me to a "you see this is why I don't associate with people" sentiment).

2.  I can't replace what they took at this time & had plans for use at my new home.

Overall at the ER the doc said he's worried over my health and stress level and wants me to refrain from packing, lifting, cleaning or anything that might kick up dust or cause me more swelling. My spouse had been telling me the same thing but he's not superman--I do feel I should help where I can.

On the bright side the baby is way active, much more then my other two were, so I get all the mini-updates from the interior football game (every half hour) that he or she is doing just peachy.

Please focus some positive energy in this direction so I can put the #@$^& stuff behind me and focus on the important issues and the great things yet to come.

[Paden]

Sending the energy and advising you to make a list and then call the cops and see if you can file a complaint about theft by omission to return your property in a timely manner when it was requested to be given back. Either way, they were in possession of your property and have a responsibility to either return or replace it. Don't take their crap and don't let them get away with this behaviour. You also might get a positive feeling of, "got ya, sucker!" for going through these steps.